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  1. Heather says:

    August 21, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    A. should probably hang out around more autistic kids who cannot even register that anyone could be that different from their own selves. It helps if the autistic kid has three biracial cousins who he understands to be a” little light and a little dark, but that have the same nose as Daisy.” Parents look different, kids look different, and frank discussions regarding the pleiotropic genetic effects of skin color are necessary. Have we not all learned that, in the absence of frank conversations regarding race, children draw incorrect conclusions about differences in appearance? Jeebus.

    • Martha says:

      August 23, 2013 at 7:03 am

      Unfortunately, we haven’t all learned that Heather. You’re just one of the more educated ones.

  2. says:

    August 22, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    “Have we not all learned that, in the absence of frank conversations regarding race, children draw incorrect conclusions about differences in appearance?”

    Which shouldn’t be surprising really, because in the absence of frank conversations regarding almost any topic, children draw incorrect conclusions from whatever limited information they have. Hence my three year old’s insistence that construction workers were never women… because 100% of the people he knew who did construction work were the guys working on the road down the street from our house.

    But obviously incorrect conclusions about the gender makeup of the construction industry are less potentially damaging than incorrect conclusions about this kind of stuff!

  3. Jennifer says:

    August 26, 2013 at 8:43 am

    I see why we call it “curiosity” but let’s delve into that a little more. Are White kids of White parents “curious” about other White kids with White parents being adopted? Many are adopted. . . . . As parents we race our children. By what we say to our and around our children in our homes as commentary to the media we watch and listen to and in our family conversations. Our children absorb all of that and that is where they learned that it is ok – maybe even expected that the ask the “Are you adopted?” or the other popular one is “Where are you from?” questions. It is not simple curiosity. Don’t get me wrong – I am not ascribing malicious motives to the children nor the parents asking the questions. But colluding with racism starts young and children learn to race others the way they were taught. White children of White parents have the most to gain from increasing their racial awareness at a young age. By the tie they are adults, Whites in the US will be the minority (in 30 years is the current prediction). White parents of White kids are doing their children a disservice if they don’t increase their own race awareness too.

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