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  1. Elizabeth says:

    May 30, 2013 at 10:10 am

    Well handled. It might also be important to note that obtaining beautiful brown skin through exposure to sun is not healthy. I spent years trying to achieve brown and now I’m regretting it. 🙂

  2. Martha says:

    May 30, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Thanks Liz! For sure, it’s a good lesson. I too, spent years trying to get super tan every summer. Never made me feel perfect, btw. 😉

  3. says:

    June 2, 2013 at 8:09 pm

    Oh that is so tough, but you responded beautifully! Do you have a sense of WHY she wants white skin? That may give you some direction for how to respond when she says that. We use sunscreen on ourselves and the boys – easy enough to explain that in terms of protection from harmful rays vs. avoiding color change. Isn’t it funny though the little nuances of language we don’t even think about until our kids bounce them back to us?! Annika is lucky to have a mom who is so sensitive to ensuring she grows up proud of who she is!

    • Martha says:

      June 3, 2013 at 2:28 am

      Oh yeah, she wants white skin because she feels different at school. She wants to fit in. She was not not the only person of color in her class. But was the only girl of African descent. And her closest friends in class are white.

      I do put sunscreen on her, but not quite as much as I do on myself because I want her to get Vitamin D. Thanks and your boys are lucky too!

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