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  1. says:

    May 1, 2012 at 5:18 am

    Wow. For months I’ve been clinging to this story. It hurts deep down–and not just the empathetic hurt for Trayvon’s parents…it hurts me personally. I think you’ve explained exactly why I feel that hurt: I don’t even know what to teach my kids. I want to protect them, and at the very least teach them how to protect themselves, but don’t even know how to begin. You’ve got me all teary-eyed, Martha. What a world.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    May 1, 2012 at 6:57 am

    Olivia was a surprise. We had decided not to have any more children. This is one of the biggest reasons why we made that decision. The joys of having children are immeasurable, but so are the fears and worries. Of course, I do not face some of the challenges that you are facing, but still. Now, with having a girl, I feel that my fears are multiplied. I was grateful when my boys reached the size that I felt a grown man would not be able to pick them up and carry them away. I’m not sure that I will ever feel that security with Olivia. And, sadly, my concerns for her physical safety are only the tip of the iceberg. My boys are 20 and 25, and the worrying never stops. The phrase “having children is like letting your heart walk around outside of your body” comes to mind. Such vulnerability.

  3. says:

    May 1, 2012 at 8:38 am

    I wish I knew what to say! I don’t have the slightest idea how the issues might differ for girls vs boys of color. Maybe someone will read this and write “Lessons For Our Black Daughters”!

    In the meantime, have you read this post? http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2012/04/transracial-adoption-isnt-big-deal.html
    Near the end she writes about the importance of having kids build relationships with adults of color in the community, as one way of helping them learn what they need to know. Maybe this is something to consider?

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