1. Elizabeth says:

    July 30, 2011 at 9:09 am

    I’ve been MIA – but a good drlogging post always makes me come out of the woodwork. I too was encouraged to have something to fall back on because, of course, my dreams were pipe dreams. I wanted to go to college in New York and study drama/ theater. My parents would not even consider it. Who knows where studying theater in New York might have taken me. I might have become a famous actress. I might have decided to become a drama teacher. I might have taken a class or stumbled upon an opportunity that inspired a completely different career path. Who knows???? The experience would have been just that – an experience. In their effort to control the future, they withdrew support unless I did what I was told. What did I do? I got pregnant and got married. I’m happy with the results of my choices (most of them) but I’ve always resented being denied the chance to try and live my dreams.

    • Martha says:

      July 30, 2011 at 12:55 pm

      I hear you Liz. I have more thoughts on this topic and am planning a more detailed post, because, oddly enough, I realized today that I stumbled upon something more than what I wrote last night. Although, my parents did encourage me to get a job and think practically, this isn’t so much about them specifically, as it is about our society and the way people are taught to be practical and dreams are discouraged. But I think dreams are important too. It’s about finding ways to integrate what we are truly good at, into our lives. Sure, your dreams of acting may have sounded impractical to your parents. And sure, the odds may have been against you. But who knows what happens when we follow our passions. Without passion, there are so many things we can become. Maybe even something nobody ever even thought of before.

  2. says:

    July 30, 2011 at 4:24 pm

    Great post. From watching Boogie, he has a great interest in drama and dance. Though our parents generation would call me a fool, if he chooses to pursue these interests, I completely support him and want him to follow his dreams. I never want my boys to wonder 10, 20 years later, “what if?” If it doesn’t work out I hope they know they have a place to stay and somewhere to eat. The home they grew up. I think everyone should follow their dreams. Life is to short to wonder, “What if?”

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