|Nursing at 18 months. Her legs are longer now.|
I’m fucking sick of nursing. There. I said it. I know it’s not very AP of me, but extended breastfeeding is not all roses and daisy chains like I expected it to be.
Okay, I didn’t really think that. I didn’t really know what to expect. But I can tell you, one thing I DID expect was that Annika would have decreased her interest in nursing on some level by the age of 2.5. Of course, I now know that setting expectations about your child is a very dangerous thing to do, and will almost always end in disappointment.
Up until a few days ago, I thought Annika would be weaning just before she took her SATs and headed off to college. I mean, this kid L.O.V.E.S. to nurse.
For months now, on a daily basis I’ve battled, “MamaIwanttonurseMamaIwanttonurseMamaIwanttonurse.”
Not only that, she has been refusing to eat food.
We’ll go to playgroups and Annika will either be nursing or asking to nurse, while ignoring her full sippy cup and snack box filled with her favorite foods, while other kids swarm around us eating her food. And she does not care. This is the same kid who will freak the fuck out if another toddler even looks remotely interested in some crappy plastic toy that she’s slightly considering playing with. But food? Nope. Doesn’t care. Is not interested. Couldn’t care less. Please, please, other children, eat my food, she says. Maybe then my mother will stop trying to get ME to eat it.
So yeah. It’s annoying and frustrating.
I know, I know, the AP way is to just give her what she needs until she doesn’t need it anymore. I did that. She had unlimited access to the boob until 19 months when I night weaned her, which did not go so well. She has been actually and fully night weaned since 2. Around 2, I put some limits on daytime nursing, reducing it to morning, nap and bedtime. I think that is plenty of unlimited access and lots of good bonding time. This kid just like mama milk. Period.
And now I’ve got a new trick up my sleeve.
A couple of weeks ago I posted a rant/vent on my local AP parenting group and got this stellar piece of advice.
Offer to nurse when she’s busy with something else. And by god, it works!
For the past few days I’ve been doing it and yesterday, she turned me down for the first time.
Of course, then today, she used up half the day nursing and then spent the end of her last nursing session trying to pull my shirt up over my head. Gah. Welcome to the latter part of 2, almost 3. Can I just hibernate?